Misbehaving teens are not to blame

Hope+Wills

Hope Wills

I see them every day at school, students who fight due to their aggressive behavior, students who sleep during lessons, and students who skip class and don’t care about the lesson in math they will miss.

These teenagers who get into trouble regularly are usually sent outside the classroom to stop their disruptions and keep other students focused on the subject.

The teacher may talk to them and bring them back inside to continue the lesson.

But this isn’t usually the case.

I have noticed that teachers have sour behavior with students who misbehave and just send them to the dean of students or make them wait outside the classroom. As the behavior continues, it adds up and they end up in detention.

This isn’t helping anyone.

The student misses the lesson, possibly fails a future test, or even fails the class.

The teacher will not be able to understand why the student acted this way and blame themselves for not being able to help the student. But the problem isn’t the teacher or the student.

The people to blame are parents and peers.

Parents are the ones who are supposed to tell us when we are doing wrong and tell us when we are doing great. They are the ones to teach us important lessons about life. They are the ones comforting us in tough times.

Our friends can pressure us into doing something that we may not like or even pressure us in a positive way, like getting us to participate in a sport that we may come to love in the future.

We are reflections of what our parents and friends are, good or bad.

Students are not to blame.

Blame the mental abuse the parents give when they neglect their children, making them “toughen up,” telling them it isn’t wrong to hurt others.

Blame their friend who influences them by disrupting class, encouraging them to follow along.

Who sounds like the victim here?

There needs to be a new system of dealing with these teens.

All students have a choice to make their lives good with what they have been dealt, but the misbehaving students just have a harder time seeing this.